All the excitement, the frivolity, and the energy generated  at this time of year is great, isn’t it? We make a concerted effort to connect with family, friends and neighbors. We get caught up on everyone’s lives and their stories of the past year. Some are sad, some are joyful ; and it gives us an opportunity to reflect upon our own year as well.

And oh, the cooking, the eating, the decorating, the parties and the shopping. Are you exhausted yet? Many nerves are frayed – not to mention budgets that are “busted.” And we do it to ourselves, year after year.

Much like the animals that go into hibernation during the winter months, we, too, should pay attention to our inner energy levels as well. If you’re an overachiever, someone with a bundle of energy who is always active, or someone who is privileged to be a part of a large, boisterous family, here are 3 ways you can begin to gain back your energy – your time – and control of your life:

Ask for what you need.
This is a big one for most of us. It’s always easier to just do it ourselves, isn’t it? When I learned to ask for what I needed or wanted, I found myself feeling calmer and gentler. Sharing my needs with others freed up my own energy by and allowed others to participate in my life. It might be as simple as letting another person know how they could help around the house, or when asked by a family member what you want for Christmas, giving them some helpful ideas. After all, that would possibly lower their stress too, wouldn’t it? What do you need this season to bring a bit of calm to your chaos?

Learn to say no with grace.
It’s so easy to over-obligate ourselves. I am still trying to master this one. I have a lot of interests and many friends with whom I rarely get a chance to visit. So it’s natural to want to fit it all in during this jovial season. I can remember years ago, when I owned a retail business, we attended party after party. We felt obligated to attend many of them; but in retrospect, it wouldn’t have been a disaster to the relationship if we’d said “no.”  Now, we find it much more comfortable to accept only 3 or 4 invitations during the holidays. This leaves time for us at home as well as with family. And does allow for some spontaneity should a surprise event present itself. Is there something you could say “no” to this season that would then allow you a pause for re-energizing?

Get an extra hour of sleep every now and then.
If you’re a night owl like I am, it’s often a challenge to get to bed at a decent hour –and then to also hit the floor running for an early morning schedule. Truly, an extra hour of good sleep is the often the best medicine for an overworked body. Make a conscious effort to go to bed an hour earlier than usual at least one night a week during the workweek. You’ll be surprised at the difference. Heck, if you’re an over achiever, I dare you to do it twice a week. How would an hour of solid rest benefit your body – and your mind?

Warmest wishes to you and yours,
Darlene

P.S. Beginning in 2008, I am offering a quarterly “Seasonal Celebrations” coaching program. It’s an opportunity to  meet quarterly in a group setting (by telephone – so we can do this no matter where you are!) to review goals and plans for the year. Learn more and come join us on a Seasonal Celebration of all that life has to offer!